Quote Of The Week – 12/2/09
December 2, 2009
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”
~ Wayne Dyer (American author and motivational speaker)
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Project: Enlightenment 
Ultimately, to blame anyone or anything for your own emotional condition is to deliberately give up Free Will.
(If there is such a thing as) Free Will (it) being the quality or potential of a being to set their own course through reality. To ‘blame’ is to deliberately assign control of how we feel to another.
Interesting choice of actions.
To take it to another level, that which says that everything about our reality, including (other people and their motives and actions) still issues from within (ourselves); to blame another is to abdicate the one thing that should make any of the crap we endure on a day to day basis, worthwhile, this Free Will thing.
Interesting ‘choice’.
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Absolutely. It is that deliberate assigning of control, as you say. As you have probably gathered, I value personal responsibility, and the blame game is one of those things that places responsibility on another. Part of the evolution in being, the movement from a spiritual child/teenager is recognizing and accepting that responsibility.
It’s not what happens in life that affects us as much as it is our response to events that makes the difference in our reality.